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She/her/she (was: Misc) [Nov. 18th, 2001|06:23 pm]
Brad Fitzpatrick
I think "Misc" is the best subject ever. It's so unrestrictive. I can say whatever I want now and I'm not getting off-topic.

So let's do it![1]

I went to Safeway to get food. On the way out the door, Chuck mentioned he has a date tonight. Yay for Chuck. I want a date. I suppose a prereq for getting a date is talking with girls, but whenever I meet a girl I think is interesting, I think 20 steps ahead about why it wouldn't work anyway, without ever getting to know her. And then there are the girls I just want to meet (without intentions of a relationship) because they seem cool, but I'm afraid of talking to them too much because they'd suspect I was hitting on them. Befriending guys is so much easier because there's no confusion about intentions. Ya know, screw this... I've talked about this all before.[2]

I refrain from discussing girls in my journal because all but one of the girls I'd write about read LJ and would know I'm talking about them. But maybe if I only talked about them all together, and addressed them all only as "She" and "her", without suggesting which was which, and switching between them at random?

I could say things like: She's cool, but we're not compatible. We'd be good friends, though. I thought she was cool, but then I learned more about her. She's cool and we're totally compatible but lives in the wrong state. Besides, she has a boyfriend. But her boyfriend is wrong for her and she knows it, but she stays with him, so I don't know something. Why does she hit on me so often? Then there's her friend, who I've known forever, but that'd be weird (though nice). Could've happened before, or with her friend. I don't want that anyway, because I really want a long relationship with her. She's interesting, but I think she's smarter and more cultured than me. I'd feel intimidated. I'd ask her to go do something, but I think he likes her, and I don't know how I like her, or if I do. She's intriguing, but too different, too much of a pothead? I should meet her. We talk a lot.

How many different people am I talking about? It doesn't matter. Hell, I lost count while writing that. 8? So many interesting people, in any case.

Clarification update: I'm not saying I'd like to date all these people. I'd like to know them. There is only one I'd like to date, though I know there are tons of potential problems with it, and one I could see myself dating, if I knew her more.

I'm going to see Monsters Inc. with Chuck and April before Chuck goes on his date. We're leaving in about 10 minutes.

I have a linguistics test tomorrow, but I'll study later or something. Like I give a damn about my grade in there, or anywhere.

I'm thinking more and more of going to Germany in the spring. I had a dream that she told me I was too stupid and wouldn't survive there. Heh. We'll see how things work out with her[3] and what I end up doing.

[1] Subject was "Misc", but I changed it after I found a better subject.

[2] I'd go find the old post but LJ sucks and doesn't let you search and I have no local copy of my journal to search because LJ sucks and nobody's finished a good syncitems backup client.

[3] See she/her paragraph.

[User Picture]From: pinrad
2001-11-18 06:46 pm (UTC)
quite an engaging entry here. i like your discussion of why you do not have a date. i think you just described the strife that most CARING guys face.
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[User Picture]From: ladydiana
2001-11-18 06:48 pm (UTC)

About item two

I don't know that I'd say LJ *sucks*, but yes, a search feature would be nice.

Lacking that, what I have discovered that works for me, is looking at the view by subjects. I happen to have a very word-associative memory (I can remember conversations *verbatim* that I had five years ago), so I can generally pick a post out by the title. The trick (for me) is remembering when I originally posted it.

I haven't been using LJ *all* that long so even if I have zero idea when I posted it, I can just look at the subject listing for the months and pick it out.

Completely off that topic...what is linguistics, anyway? Like, what do they teach you? I never actually went to college but if I do I think I'm going to try somehow to get fluent in a foreign language. I'm a (telelphony) telecommunications technician by trade, but languages really are my passion, even if I don't currently speak any (brought up in a Spanish speaking area, in an Italian household...took German and Russian in high school). In A Perfect World for Diana, I'd like to be able to take a year off of work and attend some sort of total immersion academy, which at this point is *probably* Berlitz, since DLI won't have me (:::grumble grumble:::...bastards), followed by a somewhat extended trip to whatever locale is appropriate.

And aren't you glad I told you that? *rolls eyes*
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[User Picture]From: jawknee
2001-11-18 07:28 pm (UTC)


How's it goin? What's up?
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[User Picture]From: lavish
2001-11-18 07:36 pm (UTC)
I don't want that anyway, because I really want a long relationship with her.
I wasn't aware that men, outside of Elliot Smith, had thoughts like this. Not to say they were, um, incapable, just that they didn't. I find you sweet and reassuring.
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[User Picture]From: ironman1231
2001-11-18 08:45 pm (UTC)
All men have thoughts they don't reveal to everyone. It's the way we are.
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[User Picture]From: czircon
2001-11-18 08:56 pm (UTC)
This is exactly the kind of blatant sexual stereotype that I'm objecting to! It won't be long now before a masculinist movement begins.
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[User Picture]From: counterfeitfake
2001-11-18 10:19 pm (UTC)
I concur. Among the first things to go must be those ads for Sears' "Tool Territory."
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[User Picture]From: chuck
2001-11-19 01:01 am (UTC)
Yo brad, that's why I never date either. This was my first real date in... Hell I don't know. Do you remember if had any dates since Eva? Oh that's another thing, you could talk about all your girl prospects with their first initial. But that's stupid. Anyway, I can always tell what will go wrong and or *classify* the type of relationship it will be, if it will be at all. So tonight was just a practice date, I needed to go out and give it a try because I don't know what I would do once I actually like a girl. Anyway, dating just to date is not the right approach to our problem, especially when you already know you aren't interested. I'll write a post tomorrow about all this crap tomorrow sometime,lots on my mind and I don't have time to relieve my brain with my guitar or video games. The date definitely wasn't bad, but I'm still not interested. So now what? more practice dates(possibly leading this girl on) or just stop now? hm.
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[User Picture]From: flying_blind
2001-11-19 04:17 am (UTC)
Now you tell us LJ sucks.

But then, who doesn't enjoy being sucked?
So, actaully, that would be a complement.

The proper complaint would be LJ bites!

Personally, I'd say that, most of the time, it does suck.
Once in a while, it bites.

So, if we can get it to suck more, and bite less, it will be fine.
Then, your personal relationships will be bound to improve. ;)
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